Saturday, November 14, 2009

13. Chapter 14---Ariane's Bachelorette Party

It was my roommate's bachelorette party last night, and because we as roommates love her (even when she is ornery) we threw her a great one! However... she was not into all the ideas even though we tried to stay conservative and still fun. I decided I learn a lot about what I will NOT do in situations through those I've come in contact with over the last year of my life- Let me explain...

There we were, 9 girls in black, white, and red, and 1 bride wearing a bright red dress with sequins all over it. We purposely color coordianted to match the ridiculous dress we were making her wear. We had a scavenger hunt planned at the mall. Ariane had a list of tasks to complete: 1. Get a picture with 5 random groups of guys; 2. Ask 5 people what they think Vicotria's "secret" really is; 3. Get sized for lingerie; 4. Ask 3 couples for married advice. And that was it really. Not bad right? We thought we had done a wonderful job as conservative in our planning as she is in her life. We were all waiting to take a picture and she ran back inside. We waited and waited and waited, so I finally went to see what she was up to. While we were all in our pose waiting for her to join the picture, she had been sitting in her bedroom. I found her crying and holding her cell phone. She had texted her fiance to ask permission to do the list of things we had planned. For some reason, to which I can't understnad, she had a REAL hard time even THINKING about taking pictures with groups of boys... (Because being in a picture with a guy is cheating? I'm not really sure?...) Another thing I couldn't even comprehend was the fact that she knew we were all waiting on her, and she was selfish enough to sit in her room for 10 minutes without even letting us know... Even if you're having a hard time, you should have some degree of respect for people who spent their busy week planning a party that you wanted to have and were now taking time away from their busy lives to spend the night celebrating your last few weeks as a single woman. Third, I know she loves her husband, but can she not even think enough for herself to decide on her own whether or not she can do it? If I didn't really want to do something, I wouldn't need anyone to decide that for me. But apparently, being engaged makes you completely helpless in deciding anything.

I walked back outside with a plastered smile on my face; I have learned from previous experience that it is not worth getting angry over people like that. I just took a mental note: 1. If someone goes out of their way to do something nice for me, I'm going to have respect for them and try my hardest to cooperate with thier plans. 2. Never be so selfish that you can't at least have the decency to let people know they shouldn't wait for you. 3. Don't be embarrassed by harmless things. It's not worth it. 4. Decide where YOU stand and what YOUR opinion is, independent of anyone else. Once you have your opinion, act on it independent of anyone else. 5. Have fun always.

If you aren't constantly laughing, loving, or livin' it up, then you're only breathing. Don't breathe. LIVE! :)

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